Tough Times..

“At a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what's happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That's the world's greatest lie.” –The Alchemist

All of us have what we call as ‘tough times’ . And all of us also have the strength to deal with it. It has been designed to see how tough we are, how well we believe in ourselves.

When we are in the middle of a trouble, it always seems so out of proportion, we always see it as a huge one, we always find ourselves saying “ god, please don’t let another go through the same as I” . we find that we seek comfort from others words, when someone says we believe you can go through this, when they say you ll do just fine, it reinforces our faith and we move ahead with so much of vigor and smile through miseries as well..but it doesn’t last very long, soon the fear of losing everything, soon the fear of failing, the pain resurfaces and we begin to give up.

"He asked himself those some questions too many times and felt the fears again that kept him where he was"
— Spencer Johnson (Who Moved My Cheese?)

And at that point, we must try and find solace in other things, things that could help us hope and pray and inspire us to go ahead.

And if you look back you will see that you have already been through a lot of these ‘tough times’ and that it seemed to you then you wouldn’t be able to do it but you did! And that just proves that we are capable of handling everything, all we need Is determination and will power and a little bit of faith that everything will be good in the end.

Sometimes its slow.. but we must believe that its moving ahead.. that we are near the end.. We are so lost worrying about the problem that we fail to look for a solution.. sometimes the solution might be just to let go of the trouble and not holding on to it.. sometimes its in our heads.. we fear we don’t have anything to do if this trouble ends..nothing to worry about…there cannot be a happy man in this world.. its never heard of.. a man can not have no trouble.. so we just leave it to what we call ‘fate’ and not do anything about it..

"He knew sometimes some fear can be good. When you are afraid things are going to get worse if you don't do something, it can prompt you into action. But it is not good when you are afraid that it keeps you from doing anything."
— Spencer Johnson (Who Moved My Cheese?)

We always think change will lead to something worse, we never give an opportunity to change to do something better. We never give ourselves a chance, we don’t want to change the way we think, we never want to change ‘our principles’ ‘our decisions’ which we hold so dear.

Sometimes we just get so used to living with the trouble that we think its okay.. ‘I can live with this’ you say.. but you can’t.. never let pain or suffering get a grip on you.. never get used to it..

“Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives” – The alchemist

The key to going about our ‘tough times’ is to believe its going to end.. to believe that after every dark night, there is a bright morning, to never stop trying and not be afraid of change.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.” – The Alchemist

Know that there are people in this world, even if there are only a handful of them, who believe in you and who want you to be happy, who know in their hearts that you can deal with anything that life tests you with cause you have a brave heart, cause you have it in you to face the ‘toughest time’ and still smile.

When you begin to lose hope, to lose faith, think of all the people who will hurt if you fail yourself. Think of those who don’t care if you fail them, all they want is you be at peace with youself , cause all they care about is you.

Remember its not about whether you fall or not, its about if you’d stand up after that fall!!